Posted on March 28th, 2025

By Dr. Emir Cruz Fernández

When people hear you're interested in Stoic philosophy, the typical reaction might be a polite nod or even subtle resistance. “Isn’t Stoicism all about suppressing emotions?” they might ask.

Let’s clear this up.

The Stoic path is not a cold or emotionless one—it is deeply human, refreshingly honest, and surprisingly optimistic. At its heart, Stoicism teaches us how to see clearly, act justly, and live fully in the face of adversity.

It’s not about numbing ourselves. It’s about responding, not reacting. And that’s something every educator—every human—can benefit from.

Why Stoicism Is, In Fact, Optimistic

Where others see a dead-end, the Stoic sees an opening. Where others spiral into frustration or blame, the Stoic anchors themselves in fairness, reason, and a search for meaning. This is optimism—not blind positivity, but a resilient belief that even in difficulty, we can choose how to move forward.

When we stop resisting what we cannot control, and instead accept what life hands us, a profound freedom emerges. As philosopher Anderson (2022) puts it: “By accepting the events of my life as simply ‘things that happen’, and by accepting that it is my interpretation of them that shapes my response, I can begin to embrace what is actually ‘up to me’.”

This mindset is not passive. It is empowered. When you understand that your reactions, your thoughts, and your choices are your own, you begin to shape your world with intention.

Negative Visualization: A Tool for Hope

Yes, Stoics practice something called negative visualization. But this is not pessimism—it's preparation.

By imagining what could go wrong, we anticipate, adapt, and create solutions. If the store is out of your favorite chocolate, you don’t crumble into despair. You shift, adjust, walk to the next block—and maybe find a better one. This is not weakness. It’s practical hope. It’s Stoic Optimism.

As Marcus Aurelius wisely said: “Our actions may be impeded … but there can be no impeding our intentions or dispositions. Because we can accommodate and adapt.”

Stop Outsourcing Your Joy

Let’s be honest: how much time do we spend worrying about what others think of us? Why should someone else’s opinion matter more than your own self-respect? Why give anyone the power to dictate how you feel? The Stoic answer: Don’t.

Gillihan (2020) reminds us, through Aurelius’ voice: “Disturbance comes only from within—from our own perceptions.” If you can learn to observe your thoughts, own your choices, and act according to your values, you will no longer depend on external validation for your happiness.

The Stoic Self: Just One Among Many

Imagine this: You're working on your computer. The lights go out. You're frustrated. Now imagine your neighbor across the hall is in the same situation. Are you upset about their power loss? Probably not. Why? Because it’s not about you. And yet, your neighbor isn’t grieving for your unfinished work either.

The Stoic insight? We’re not the main characters in each other’s stories. As Matthias (2021) writes: “We are no more important than anyone else, and the wise person should learn to see themselves as just one person in the crowd.”

It’s humbling. And it’s liberating.

Your stress, your problems, your pride—they are not uniquely tragic or special. They're simply part of being human. And when you begin to see yourself as one thread in the vast human fabric, you can let go of ego and embrace empathy.